Tuesday, April 12, 2005




I know people who work 12 hours a day, six days a week, or more. Some people do so because of a work emergency where the long hours are only temporary. Other people I know have put in these hours for years. I don't know if they are working all these hours, but I do know they are in the office this long.

Others put in long office hours because they are addicted to the workplace.

Whatever the reason for putting in overtime, working long hours over the long term is harmful to the person and to the organization.

There are things managers can do to change this for everyone's benefit.Being in the office long hours, over long periods of time, makes way for potential errors. My colleagues who are in the office long hours frequently make mistakes caused by fatigue. Correcting these mistakes requires their time as well as the time and energy of others. I have seen people work Tuesday through Friday to correct mistakes made after 5 PM on Monday.

Another problem is that people who are in the office long hours are not pleasant company. They often complain about other people (who aren't working as hard); they are irritable, or cranky, or even angry. Other people avoid them. Such behaviour poses problems, where work goes much better when people work together instead of avoiding one another. As Managers, there are things we can do to help people leave the office.

First and foremost is to set the example and go home ourselves. I work with a manager who chides people for working long hours. His words quickly lose their meaning when he sends these chiding group e-mails with a time-stamp of 2 AM, Sunday.

Second is to encourage people to put some balance in their lives. For instance, here is a guideline I find helpful:
1) Wake up, eat a good breakfast, and go to work.
2) Work hard and smart for eight or nine hours.
3) Go home.
4) Read the books/comics, watch a funny movie, dig in the dirt, play with your kids, etc.
5) Eat well and sleep well.

This is called recreating. Doing steps 1, 3, 4, and 5 enable step 2.

Working regular hours and recreating daily are simple concepts. They are hard for some of us because that requires 'personal change'. They are possible since we all have the power to choose to do them. In considering the issue of overtime, I am reminded of my oldest son.

When he was a toddler, if people were visiting the apartment, he would not fall asleep no matter how long the visit, and no matter what time of day it was. He would fight off sleep until the visitors left. It was as if he was afraid that he would miss something. Once our visitors' left, he would go to sleep.
By this time, however, he was over tired and would scream through half the night with nightmares. He, my wife, and I, all paid the price for his fear of missing out.

Perhaps some people put in such long hours because they don't want to miss anything when they leave the office. The trouble with this is that events will never stop happening. That is life !! Things happen 24 hours a day.

Allowing for little rest is not ultimately practical. So, take a nap.Things will happen while you're asleep, but you will have the energy to catch up when you wake.


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Monday, April 11, 2005

Charitable Concert...

Semlm tengok concert RiBuT D@m@i @ ExPO... Actually was expecting something more Powerful, especially wz the presence of MN@siR & D@Y@nG so was really excited over the whole thing. However it was a bit dry, the 1st thing happen when u enter the Hall there was a lot of empty space. The whole patch of section F was not occupied was rather dissapointed. Surprisingly the whole row from the back move to the front row. So kita pun apa lagi, pindah aje lah ke depan.. follow the crowd aje lah kita, kalu tak ketinggalan.

Anyway, attending a concern for a good course - entertaiment & donation for Tsun@mi then why not...

Today's my off day, so the lazy at home & relax before the next working day starts tomorrow....


TruLy NoreeZ

Saturday, April 09, 2005

Unplan Meeting of Stranger Twice or More...

I've been busy giler.. didnt manage to blog last few weeks..

But.... I've something interesting,
I've bumb into the Same person on the streets Twice or More for the past 2 mths. Amazing isnt it?

- Rizal (Pak Long foster eldest Son) ~ once was at the wedding, 2nd was ystdy evening in the MRT... Kesian lah muka dia tu. But he's a nice chap lah, harmless.

- mauwee, my senior sch mate of USTS ~ once was at KLCC food court last mth wz his family, 2nd was last night @ Swensen when i was having dinner wz Cherry. He's the Manager there. He dont noe me lah, but I remember him.

- the guy in the train.. whatever his name is... ~ ya that guy, once was in front of Meredien in his car last mth weekend, 2nd was last week when I was at Raffles Place DBS booth, 3rd was just a while ago in the MRT to Orchard.

- & my Chat/Internet cum Manja write friend, FooZ ~ once was in CT hall MRT last mth, 2nd was in MRT Dhoby Ghaubt. My instinct was right it was really him, but i ddnt ackno. Takut Salah, but he email me back saying that my instinct was STRONG.. power lah..

& the best part of all, the are all MAN.. haahahah.. isnt it wonderful???

Thursday, April 07, 2005

Dating Article - How to Make Sure Men Know You're Available

I Like this one,
Thanks to Feisal...

How to Make Sure Men Know You're Available     

If you go out with any guy--whether as a pair or in a mixed-gender group--you may be losing opportunities, because people are getting the wrong impression.

Here are some things to do to make it clear to all those gorgeous guys out there that you are a single, available, and highly desirable lady.

1.  If you go out often with your best male friend, tell him that you need to take some time off so that you can find someone new.  He may feel rejected, even though your relationship is solely a friendship.  Reassure him that your friendship is important to you and how much you value it.  You can continue to go out with him, but reserve at least one night a week for going out alone or with all female friends.

2.  Reserve at least one night a week to go out alone or with your few closest female friends.  The whole focus of the night should be keeping your eyes open, engaging in some fun flirting, and seeing the possibilities out there!

3.  If you tend to go out often in mixed-gender groups, seat yourself at the side of the table surrounded by women, keep your body angled towards the crowd rather than your small group, and look up often.  Unintentional eye contact can be one of the best ways of meeting someone new.

4.  If a guy that you're interested in sees you in the company of another man, ALWAYS mention that the other man is just a co-worker, friend, or sibling.  Don't wait for him to ask. Most men have a firm respect for other men's territory.  If a guy thinks that you are attached, he won't send out any signals that he finds you attractive ... even if he does.

5.  Keep your male friendships purely platonic and don't give into the urge to make them a substitute for a romantic relationship.  Male friends often give women an excuse not to hunt for a romantic partner.  You may already be comfortable with your male friend, while the hassle involved in meeting someone new, going on a few dates together, and seeing if you're compatible might feel like too much to bother.  DON'T settle for friendship when you could be having the relationship of your dreams!

6.  If you do go out with a male friend, make some space.  Don't lean in close, or sit too close together, or lower your voice for a warm, intimate conversation.  Keep your body turned slightly away from your friend and towards the crowd.  Make sure that your friend knows what you are doing so that he does not feel offended.  Avoid "jokingly" flirting, as it can be difficult for anyone observing you to distinguish from real flirting.

7.  Leave your table and wander through the crowd as much as possible.  When you are alone, you are much more approachable.  Use the bathroom.  Get drinks from the bar, and take your time doing so.  Let your gaze wander as you wait with a light, confident smile.  If that handsome guy at the edge of the dance floor is looking at you, he might just catch your eye.

8.  Always have a good time.  Guys are drawn to positive energy; they want to be part of the fun.  If you're the girl who's having a great time on the dance floor, men will notice you.  However, it will be up to you to signal to them your approachability.  If you catch a gorgeous guy looking at you, look away quickly, then look back.  Glance down and smile to yourself.  Look back up again if you feel like it.  This game of "eye play" will make it clear to him that you find him attractive.  Next thing you know, you may find men lining up in droves at your table.